As a parent or caregiver you want the best for your child. But do you sometimes get angry, upset or yell, sometimes feeling a loss of control towards your child or teen? If so, such behaviors could be the result of things that have happened in your childhood or past that causes you become more reactive rather than responding to your child. Such reactive behaviors can however have severe consequences affecting your child's brain development and behavior that can put them at severe risk of acting out behaviors.
WHAT IS THE RISK? When a teen is exposed to problems in the home or even an "over controlling parent", this affects the way their brain develops and can often lead to unintended consequences. Such as an inability to express how they feel, exhibiting poor academic performance or becoming over critical in obtaining all A's, having low self-esteem, poor social skills, risk of drug and alcohol abuse, even suicidal behavior, criminal activity. For a girl, she is even more at risk of re-victimization from being drawn to a premature intimate relationship that makes her feel important, loved, respected, cared for but instead often leads to early sexual activity, unintended pregnancy, dropping out of school and intimate partner violence.
DO YOU GET ANGRY, UPSET EASILY? As an adult caregiver, whether biological or not, if you feel you easily become angry, yell or even feel like becoming threatening among those you care for, remember it is highly likely that your daughter will be more easily drawn to someone who is loving and caring, but because they have had boundaries and emotional violations, they are at a greater risk of becoming the victim of abuse in a premature relationship. But the good news is that, for the love of your child you care for, to show them how much you care and love them, you can talk with someone and get assistance so you can provide the best for your child. Remember the behaviors that you model to your child, they learn from you. While how you have become is not your fault, based upon your past, you can make changes to help your child.
HOW CAN YOU HELP? While this video was not likely intended for this purpose, Tiffany Alvord in her song "Never Been Better" is a beautiful song and video that offers an example of how teen girls can be easily drawn to premature relationships when there are problems in the home. Call to talk with someone today at 800-799-7233. You can also guidelines in The Parent's Pyramid, along with additional information to help you provide the best for your child.